It's A Process

I attended church at Solid Rock last night and the sermon was titled 'It's not a problem. It's a process.'  Pastor Lawrence Jr. shared with us that no matter what you go through in life and no matter how difficult a situation may be, it's not a problem.  It's just a learning process.  It doesn't matter what cards you get delt in life, it's how you play them.  Doesn't matter what problem is thrown your way, it's how you react to it! Good stuff, right? I thought so.  Then it makes us realize, whoa! Easier said than done.  Staying in the Word and being true to yourself will help with this process tremendously.  Everyone around me keeps saying "Wow. I bet you're ready for 2011 to be over."  Granted 2011 has not been my best year.  I moved 3 times, went through a divorce and had to make an entire new life for myself.  It felt like a problem for quite a while until I started focusing on what was important.  God is still in control, God is aware of my troubles and God still has a plan for my life.  Now it is a process.  It's a process to take the time to heal from all of the hurt.  To learn to trust again, to make the best of my situation and to learn to stand independently.  I am learning that I need to first be in love with the Lord before I can love anyone else.  It's a process.

One thing that I have found to be of great importance is that when you are in the midst of pain, the best thing you can do is surround yourself with others who can relate to that pain.  If you have lost a loved one, you don't want to hear from your best friend who has never experienced that kind of loss.  Nor will your best friend know what you need to hear at that moment.  I was able to find a support group of all women at my church who had either been divorced, were separated or going through a separation.  They were the only people I wanted to take advice from and they were the only ones who should have been giving me advice.  These ladies have been my backbone since April and they gave me the strength to stand up for myself and say enough is enough.  Once again it is easier said than done.  I knew what I needed to do, but getting the courage to follow through with it was completely different.  It was a process.  I can say now that I am ready for whatever processes I have to go through in the upcoming year. If I come across one that I don't know the answer to, I will turn to the best tool I know- The Word of God.  Wishing you all many blessings for 2012!